By now you're probably getting the gist of this analogy; you may have even thought of some aspects of the analogy I have missed (please do post in the comments if you think of another way to expand this ongoing project).
I am finally brought to the title of my blog.
"My life is a 5-by-5 Rubik's Cube"
What do I mean when I say that?
Well. Consider that most Rubik's Cubes are 3 blocks by 3 blocks in all directions. It is possible to get official Rubik's brand cubes in dimensions up to 5 blocks by 5 in each direction. And if one so desires you can now obtain up to 7 blocks by 7 in all directions (in the V-Cube brand... This I was unaware of when I named the blog).
Most people would agree that the larger the cube (in terms of number of blocks on any one side) the harder it will be to solve (and keep solved). Of course, for every cube, it is only the top layer (or two when you get to the really big cubes) that other people can see.
So what makes a person's 'life cube' a 4x4 or a 5x5? The number of things they have to deal with is essentially proportional to the size of their cube. When I say 'things' I mean relatively big things such as a job, haing children to look after, a chronic illness or a disability, studying a tafe/uni course, hobbies that take up a significant portion of time etc. In that list are things that we get a choice about and things that we don't. Imagine being handed a 5x5 Rubik's Cube and not being given the option of a 3x3 to start with. You always have the option of making your cube bigger (you can add things) but you can't always choose to shrink your cube to a smaller size (that's just the way life goes).
A 5x5 cube is substantially harder than the 3x3 for the uninitiated. think of how much harder you would find it to solve just the top layer of a 5x5 and get that looking nice and presentable!
There's a few things to take from the size analogy...
Not everyone get's to choose their cube size; and not everyone get's to start with a basic 3x3 cube to help them build up to solving the 5x5 cube!
Some things in life are our choice and therefore whether or not they increase the size of our cube is also our choice. Other things in life are not our choice, and it is important not to beat yourself up if you can't solve the bigger size cube straight away when life throws something at you that knocks you up a cube size.
It is easier to solve a 4x4 or 5x5 cube once you have learnt the principles of solving a 3x3. Similarly, without the opportunity to develop the "basic skills" solving a 3x3, a 5x5 can be inordinately difficult. Therefore it is wise to take opportunities to develop your skills for the 3x3 before life pushes you onto a bigger cube.
Life is a progression and it is natural that as you move through life and take on more responsibilities that your cube size will increase! Expect it! Enjoy it, because each time you get to tackle a bigger challenge and learn new skills.
Successfully solving a 5x5 cube takes much more planning than a mere 3x3 cube. So if you are living with a bigger cube size, be prepared to spend more time planning and thinking things through in life.
Something you can do if you are finding your large cube size too difficult is remove an element of your life that you have a choice about (that may be increasing the size of your cube) and come back to it at a later time when you have the skills to deal with the increased cube size. While this isn't always possible, for most people there are a few things they can push to the side for a while in order to decreased stress and make the cube (life) just that little bit more manageable.
Consider how you think about other people. Do you judge them if their top layer isn't as neat as your own. Have you checked to see what size cube each of you are working with? What if you've got a nice and tidy 3x3 cube but this person has been obligated to tackle a 7x7? Are you still going to think they are less competent and in control as you when you see two little squaures out of place on their top layer? I wouldn't... Also consider that they may never have had the opportunity to learn the more basic cube solving strategies (life skills) and this 7x7 cube they have been dumped with may be an almost impossible task for them!
Summary:
- Elements of your life determine the size Rubik's Cube you are working with
- You have control over some elements of your life but not everything
- You may be stuck with a 5x5 Rubik's cube regardless of your efforts
- It is easier to build up to a bigger cube gradually rather than tackling it without having solved smaller cubes first. Build up to the big things!
- You may not know how big another person's cube is, or whether they had the opportunity to practise with a smaller size before being dumped with the big one.
- If your cube is too hard and there is something you can put on hold, do it. You will shrink your cube size and make it more manageable. Come back to the element that knocks you up a cube size when you are ready for the challenge and have developed the relevant skills!
- Some people find the larger cube sizes stimulating and thrive with them. Others find large cubes frustrating and painful. Don't judge people who fall on a different side of the fence to you on this matter.
- The bigger your cube the more you will have to plan and think through your moves.
- It is normal to grow and increase your cube size as you go through life.
My life is a 5x5 Rubik's Cube. Not all by choice, but I could probably opt for a 4x4 if I wanted. I'm just starting to get the hang of the 5x5 'life cube', but it's not second nature yet (like the 3x3) so I'm sticking around this cube size for a bit longer until it is all second nature. Then I plan to move up to the 6x6; hopefully things don't look too messy once I move up that cube size.
(c) Arlene Taylor 2010
5x5x5!
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